There I was in the supermarket on a busy Friday morning.
As I got to the till, I heard a child screaming and out of the corner of my eye I could see this child throwing himself on the floor. With a quick, experienced eye, I judged him to be about four.
His mum (I assumed), then started to say, “That is it.. I’m fed up of you doing this… you will not have the treat!”
From where I was standing, I could see other shoppers nearby who were just looking. The child’s sister, who was standing next to him, asked her brother to get up from the floor. I saw that the mother was visibly shaking and still trying to talk to him.
I finished packing my shopping in the trolley and walked over to her and put my arm around her. “Parenting is tough!” I told her. “Trust me, all the parents in this shop have had […]
I continue to be intrigued by the way the EYFS talks about ‘managing children’s behaviour’. Considering what we now know about how a child learns and develops, is ‘managing children’s behaviour’ still a useful term to use within Early Years?
My views are that we can’t manage children’s behaviour, as we need to give all children the skills and tools to regulate their own behaviour, so they can resolve conflict and be emotionally grounded both within their early years and beyond.
Educators can indeed help children with self-regulation, which is different from the traditional training in ‘behaviour management’ within Early Years.
Educators require skills such as recognising a child has suffered a trauma and supporting the child sensitively to help them communicate how they are feeling; assisting children to resolve conflict through negotiation and giving them the language skills to do so; helping children know they have a voice and are able to contribute […]