I love Sunday evening period dramas, particularly in the winter months. Call the Midwife is one of my favourites, always finding a way to pull at my heart strings.
Sunday’s episode featured a mother who seemed overly concerned about her baby, imagining the worst outcome regarding its wellbeing. On reviewing her medical notes, the staff discovered that her first child had died in his sleep aged eight months and the anniversary of his death was looming.
In the episode, as soon as they were aware of this the medical team showed compassion and empathy towards the mother.
This made me think about how we can support parents and be less judgemental.
We can sometimes put labels on parents: ‘lovely family’, ‘caring’, ‘he’s demanding’, ‘she always has something to say’. We need to press the pause button and not place parents in the ‘good parent’ or ‘bad parent’ file. Labels are not helpful.
What is helpful, is trying to understand parents (see my previous post on how past experience can influence behaviour) and being inquisitive about historical information that may help us understand why a parent may display certain behaviours. We can then offer support and solutions in a non-judgemental way, helping parents to feel empowered, which will have a positive and lasting impact on their child.
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